What My Boyfriend Thinks...

KJ and i have never been in a long term relationship before. My last relationship (and the only one before KJ) was for four months and i spent two of those months thinking that something was going wrong. And i was right about it.

 

KJ, on the other hand, was almost engaged two years ago. Almost engaged in the sense that they did not have a formal engagement ceremony but he was in love with someone that he had asked her to marry him and she said yes. Though they had known each other only for three months, KJ had thought that that was it. That she was the girl. Though somehow, they had to go separate ways because the girl decided to call off the relationship and move back to the US. KJ said she had a good enough reason but of course he was heartbroken.

 

Now, the thing is KJ and i, we both had never been in a long term relationship.

 

Right now, KJ and i have been with each other for a little more than 7 months. And for us, that is the longest.

 

So we don't know what are the side-effects of a long-term relationship. Do people get bored of each other? Do people not want to talk to each other sometimes? What do we people do when the initial sparks are blown out?

 

I got pretty emotional. And thought may be KJ wants a break. So we talked about it and KJ said that taking a break is completely stupid. It doesn't make any sense. He said though things are changing, it does not mean we are falling out of love.

 

He said even thought we are facing the side effects of a long-term relationship, he wants to maintain the status quo. And the status quo, he said, is that 'I love you'.

 

:) What would i ever do without my boyfriend?

 

Baby, you are the one thing that detangles my messed up mind.

 

An Update: Best Friends On A Break

Even though I needed this break the most, there were times when I missed her so much. So I would end up calling her but she wouldn’t answer my call. Yesterday she left for a three-day long vacation with her family and she texted me before leaving. So I called her and everything just slipped back to normal. Perfectly normal.

 

So now I get a call from her when she is on her way to the railway station, when her train starts to move, and when she reaches her destination. We talk over the phone about the weather there, the roads and stuff. It’s normal. The way it used to be.

 

A break always works. In the case of me and my best friend, it always works in the favour of our friendship.

 

Happy and safe journey to my best friend.

Best Friends On A Break

I have this wonderful best friend whom I’ve known for the last five years. We met in undergraduation. Our friendship had seen the good and the bad sides of us, but somehow we’ve stuck together through all that. However, the one thing that I do not like about her is the fact that she gets on to me whenever I’m too busy to answer her calls. I tell her that I would return her calls as soon as I could, but when I do, she won’t answer and then she would get mad and tell me that I’ve changed.

Sometimes it’s really endearing but only to the extent I could feel ‘wanted’ by someone. But after a while, it gets annoying. Like this morning when she texted me saying that I’ve changed completely and that she does not want to speak to me again.

When you’re overwhelmed with your life, you need a personal space. A personal time. Whatever you choose to do in that time is your business. Whether you want to take a nap, or a bubble bath, or listen to music or take a walk in the park. It’s your ‘ME’ time. And you really NEED that when you are overwhelmed with work. You might not need a person at times, but you sure do need your ‘ME’ time.

Lately, I’ve been burderned with people unreasonably demanding my attention when I’m stuck in work. (And let me clear this. This is not the case of a poor balance between work and loved ones.)

Initially, it feels good to know that you’re so important in somebody’s life but then you slowly realize that they’re just being unreasonable and stubborn about it.

There’s a friend I have from college (where I’m currently studying for my post-grad degree) who gets upset everytime I speak to a classmate or another friend. It’s annoying, honestly. When people do that, it turns me off. It makes me want to go a little away from them for the moment. It completely shuts me down.

As for the best friend, I called her and she doesn’t want to speak to me. So what I’ve decided is I’ll let her be on her own for a while. (This exercise is not new for us. We’ve been through dozens of situations like this before where we’ve said we don’t want to speak to each other again but of course, we go back to being best friends!) So I’m hoping (and taking for granted) that sooner or later we’ll find our way back to each other.  
 

For now, I seriously need a break. From limitations. From friendships.