I have this wonderful best friend
whom I’ve known for the last five years. We met in undergraduation. Our
friendship had seen the good and the bad sides of us, but somehow we’ve stuck
together through all that. However, the one thing that I do not like about her
is the fact that she gets on to me whenever I’m too busy to answer her calls. I
tell her that I would return her calls as soon as I could, but when I do, she
won’t answer and then she would get mad and tell me that I’ve changed.
Sometimes it’s really endearing
but only to the extent I could feel ‘wanted’ by someone. But after a while, it
gets annoying. Like this morning when she texted me saying that I’ve changed
completely and that she does not want to speak to me again.
When you’re overwhelmed with your life, you need a personal space. A personal time. Whatever you choose to do in that time is your business. Whether you want to take a nap, or a bubble bath, or listen to music or take a walk in the park. It’s your ‘ME’ time. And you really NEED that when you are overwhelmed with work. You might not need a person at times, but you sure do need your ‘ME’ time.
When you’re overwhelmed with your life, you need a personal space. A personal time. Whatever you choose to do in that time is your business. Whether you want to take a nap, or a bubble bath, or listen to music or take a walk in the park. It’s your ‘ME’ time. And you really NEED that when you are overwhelmed with work. You might not need a person at times, but you sure do need your ‘ME’ time.
Lately, I’ve been burderned with people unreasonably demanding my attention when I’m stuck in work. (And let me clear this. This is not the case of a poor balance between work and loved ones.)
Initially, it feels good to know
that you’re so important in somebody’s life but then you slowly realize that
they’re just being unreasonable and stubborn about it.
There’s a friend I have from
college (where I’m currently studying for my post-grad degree) who gets upset
everytime I speak to a classmate or another friend. It’s annoying, honestly. When
people do that, it turns me off. It makes me want to go a little away from them
for the moment. It completely shuts me down.
As for the best friend, I called her and she doesn’t want to speak to me. So what I’ve decided is I’ll let her be on her own for a while. (This exercise is not new for us. We’ve been through dozens of situations like this before where we’ve said we don’t want to speak to each other again but of course, we go back to being best friends!) So I’m hoping (and taking for granted) that sooner or later we’ll find our way back to each other.
As for the best friend, I called her and she doesn’t want to speak to me. So what I’ve decided is I’ll let her be on her own for a while. (This exercise is not new for us. We’ve been through dozens of situations like this before where we’ve said we don’t want to speak to each other again but of course, we go back to being best friends!) So I’m hoping (and taking for granted) that sooner or later we’ll find our way back to each other.
For now, I seriously need a break.
From limitations. From friendships.
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